Passive aggressive men dating
(Most) women really appreciate when you take the lead.
It follows from there that women — at least good women — must be pursued and coaxed into sex, and men enjoy the thrill of the chase.” There’s plenty of evidence for that, as women prefer to be asked out, have men make the first move, and are particularly turned on by their partners’ desire for them. And I’ve observed the same Catch-22 that Friedman and Bergner have reported on below: “Women want sex, and in particular, they want sex with people who really want them.Sex is a fun topic to write about and I’ve written a LOT about it.But this piece by Ann Friedman in New York magazine is so spot on that I wish I had written it myself.Frankly, I think that most women seem to really like it when a man acts with confidence and decisiveness – when he calls, plans, pays, initiates sex, and follows up. Is it old-school and patriarchal when men “take the lead”?Is it disempowering and passive if women prefer this? What I think is after 16 years of a marriage as a husband that did ALL the planning, ALL the courting, ALL the initiating and ALL the paying ALL the time that I’m sick of having to do ALL the work.
Everyone knows that Men Are the Expendable Gender, after all.